Get connected
By Justin and Clara Hamel
Humans are biologically wired for social connection. Historically, the more isolated we were the lower our chances of survival, and so connection was not a luxury but a necessity. Though the human landscape has changed greatly since our early days of survival, our need for connection has remained constant. Social connection remains a cornerstone of mental and physical health — without it humans are at increased risk for disease and premature death.
With technology it would seem that connection has never been easier, and it is true. Humans have never been more superficially connected than we are now; however, the strong connections required to nourish mental and physical health have declined. A recent report by the National Institute of Health found loneliness and isolation to be present in epidemic proportions. One in three people reported feelings of loneliness each week, and only 39% reported feeling very connected to others. This is startling when one considers that loneliness and isolation increase the risk of premature death by 30%. That is the equivalent of smoking 15 cigarettes per day!
What does this mean and what can we do? It means that now more than ever we need to focus on building, strengthening and maintaining connection, and we can do this in a variety of ways.
Volunteer – Find an organization where the mission aligns with your values and volunteer.
Get to know your neighbors – Many people know their neighbors, but lack connection. Build connection through hosting or encouraging neighborhood barbecues, or by offering your assistance to neighbors (shoveling sidewalks, carrying groceries or sharing resources).
Join a local organization – Our community has a variety of wonderful charitable organizations in which to get involved. These organizations can strengthen connection as well as provide purpose through charitable works.
Get involved in local activities – Join a local book club, sign up for art classes, take exercise classes, join a walking group or get involved in activities at a local church.
Attend local gatherings – Attend local concerts, festivals or fundraisers in the community.
Schedule regular family or friend dinners – It used to be commonplace for extended family to gather on Sunday afternoons, but slowly these pastimes have faded. However, this can be reignited by scheduling a regular lunch or dinner with family and friends.
Just participating in these activities is not necessarily enough to build social connections. You also need to be engaged. Ask questions of others and give them the time to truly listen to their responses. Doing this and learning others’ stories, opinions and hopes while sharing your own is where true connection begins.
Dr. Justin Hamel and Clara Hamel have a combined over 30 years of experience in health fields. Reach them at 1° Performance & Longevity, located at 900 South Main St., Suite A in Jacksonville, on Facebook or by phone at 217-243-6358.
